Ever feel downcast and unable to shake the feeling of sadness? It’s okay. I get that way too. When your bed seems like your best friend and all you want to do is crawl in. I know the sound of the sweet siren’s call. Pulling the covers over your head and hiding won’t make your demons disappear. There are ways to fight back the darkness. You just have to be willing to try.
It’s hard to remain positive all the time. Especially with the daily drudges dragging you down. When you get sad or depressed, it’s so easy to lay in bed and feel sorry for yourself. I’m the queen of sleeping till the problem disappears, but let me let you in on a little secret. Sleeping the day away doesn’t change things. It won’t make you happier. Here’s the question: how do we get back to positive thinking and stay there? Well, I’m no expert on positive thinking. I just know what works for me.
Get out and get moving.
Getting those endorphin’s flowing and soaking up some Vitamin D. Nothing makes you feel more at peace than getting your heart pumping. A good workout can help you sort through the demons or banish them completely. I personally love running. With a good song on my iPod and a pair of running shoes, I can battle my demons back. When you get home and sit down on the couch, you’ll feel accomplished.
Surround yourself with positive people.
The phrase goes, misery loves company. I never realized how true this was until I got older. People who are miserable will drag you down with them. They want others to suffer as they do because being miserable alone is worse than anything. But these aren’t the type of people to associate with. The people I surround myself with are full of love and happiness. They don’t have constant and unending drama. They don’t perpetuate the sad thoughts. They banish them. The people in your life should bring you up and make you powerful. They should bring out the best of you.
Don’t be afraid to voice your opinions.
Sometimes we’re obligated to keep silent when we see something we don’t like. But sometimes you keep silent because you’re too scared to voice your opinions. Keeping things to yourself can weigh on your mind. The best thing I started doing for myself was voicing my opinion. If something is bothering me, I say it. Sometimes it stirs the pot, but sometimes it’s better to stir the pot than to let the bottom burn.
Plan a vacation or a small trip.
Sometimes getting away from it all helps cleanse the mind. When things get to be too much, planning a getaway can make you look forward to the future. It gives you something to plan and get excited about. Whether it be an overnight trip or a full two weeks, it’s necessary to get away from your life for a few days.
Don’t be afraid to be yourself.
Pretending to be someone else can be exhausting. Let loose. Be yourself. Be silly. Be angry. Be the firecracker that you’re meant to be. And if those around you don’t like what they see, that’s their problem. You shouldn’t be obligated to be someone you’re not just to please others. They’re not important. You are.
Keep your eye on the prize.
If you’re working towards an ultimate goal, don’t forget it. Keep fighting for your dreams and don’t let your eye off of them. Sometimes when I get writer’s block or start to feel myself going off track, I think back to why I started. To what I originally wanted to accomplish.
Choose joy and happiness
I know it’s hard. You hear the words “choose joy,” and you roll your eyes. Trust me. I get it. But you must. And every day that you choose joy is another day life will get happier. Rewire your brain. Keep the happy thoughts and banish the dark ones. Every day you choose happiness, your life will get brighter. And it’ll be that much easier to choose it the next day.
Let go of anything or anyone that makes you unhappy.
If something is affecting your happiness, remove it from your life. Simple as that. Hate that job? Find a new one. Tired of your crappy significant other? Break up with them. Can’t handle any more drama from that one person in your life? Drop them like a hot sack of potatoes. No more letting things you can control drag you down.
Accept that you can’t always be positive.
It’s okay to be sad or upset. It’s okay to not be okay. Don’t be afraid to admit it! It will pass and the rainbow will come out again. Sometimes admitting you’re not happy is the first step to getting happy. Sounds a bit wacky, I know, but getting what’s bothering you off your chest helps you sort through your issues.
Know that sadness is just part of life.
The sad thing about life is you can’t always be happy. It’s a part of life. The truth is, the flowers can’t grow without a little water. Accepting the sadness is a step towards being happy. Accepting that sadness is just part of life is a step towards being a positive person.