I bet you’re wondering why it took me so long to post my favorites from last month. Truth be told, I had so few. I almost didn’t post this because I really didn’t fall in love with any new things last month. Sad, I know. Especially compared with all the things I’ve fallen in love with this month. But I couldn’t go a month without doing a favorites post. Something in me wouldn’t allow it. So here it goes. The shortest and saddest favorites. Continue Reading

Yesterday I celebrated twenty-five years of life. It was a lovely weekend filled with all my favorite people. Spent Friday and Saturday with my best friends. The day of my birthday started out at Walt Disney World with my amazing mother, and it ended with me spending the night with the man I love. My friend and family truly spoiled me this year. I’m so grateful for all of them. The rest of this week will be spent on a mini staycation. It’s the best way to start my new stage of life.  Continue Reading

The saying goes “when it rains, it pours.” I always found that phrase a bit silly. It’s something only a cynic would say. Until this year, that is.

Now, if you read my Life Lately a few months ago, you know things haven’t exactly been going as planned in 2017. I wish I could tell you life has made a bit more sense lately. That it hasn’t beaten me down every chance it gets. Unfortunately, life continues to throw me one curve ball after another. I’m getting to the point where I feel weathered and worn out mentally and physically. Bilbo Baggins said it correctly, “I feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.”

Of course, life has its virtues. I still have my amazing support system and my action plan for when it begins to overwhelm me. But that doesn’t change the way it all feels. That doesn’t change what’s happening.

Now I know why the phrase goes “when it rains, it pours.”

It’s funny, really. A coworker asked how a family member was doing, and I threw it out so matter-of-factly. I explained the situation like I’d explain an issue to a customer. I was surprised when he said something like “and you wonder why you aren’t sleeping very well.” I didn’t even realize how bad it all sounded. I’ve become so accustomed to the problems that my brain has rewired itself to play it off. To act like it almost normal.

That’s when I started asking myself if I’ve gotten better at handling stress, or if I’m masking the problem by downplaying it.

Which leads me to this.

I think I’m correct in saying I’m not the only human on this earth having a rough year. I can’t be the only person suffering. This post is as much for me as it is for you all. Today I wanted to share how to handle stress in this crazy, stressful world we live in.

First, take a step back.

Tell yourself what I’ve just admitted to myself. You aren’t alone. You aren’t the only person going through this.

Then put it into perspective for a minute or two. Decided if what’s stressing you out is worth all this stress. Can you change the outcome? If yes, do so. If not, take a deep breath and move forward. For me, I can’t cure cancer. I’m not a doctor. I’ve come to understand that and accept it. Instead of wishing I was more than I am, I must cherish the time I spend with them. I pray for miracles and modern medicine. If I could affect change in this situation, I would. But I can’t. Instead of stressing about what I can’t do, I focus instead on things I can change.

Focus on the now.

If you can’t change the outcome of what’s causing you stress, focus on the positive happenings in your life. If that’s going to work and getting your job done, go do it. If that’s spending time with family and friends, be in that moment. Don’t let what’s stressing you out take away from the life you’re trying to live. 

This is something I’m not sure if I’m doing or not. I want to say I’m living my life as best as I can, but I also feel as though I’m letting people down. I want to believe I could do better without all this hanging over my head, but I can’t think that way. That only leads to more stress and self-doubt. Tell yourself you’re doing the best you can with the hand you’ve been dealt. Give things your all. Because stress isn’t going to magically disappear. You simply learn to work around it. 

Let it out.

The worst thing to do when you’re stressed out is to let that feeling stay inside of you. It will figuratively eat you up from the inside out. Trust me. I know. Instead of letting it sit inside like a parasite, get those feelings out.

I can’t thank the people in my life enough for listening to me bitch for pretty much the whole year. I take these people for granted every single day, and I’m sorry for that. People like my mom, my significant other, and my best friends are only a call away. Knowing this, I’ve used them to vent out my anger and frustration several times. Seriously, guys. Thank you.

One of the best parts about letting it out is getting advice from other people. Depending on the situation, I want to know what others think. I want to know if I’m blowing things out of proportion, or if I have a right to feel how I feel. When you open up to people you trust, you can get validation. Or have someone tell you to calm down the dramatics. Either way, it helps.

But sometimes you don’t have someone you trust. Or you feel like if you say it again, you’ll be redundant. In that case, write it down. The point is to get the thoughts out on paper and out of your head. I’ve said it before in other posts regarding handling depression. I’m saying it again for the people in the back. Writing down your feelings helps you sort through them.

Take a time out.

Sometimes when stress becomes too overwhelming and, well, stressful, the best thing is to take some time. When your brain is stretched and your energy is wearing thin, you need to recharge your batteries and feel like you again. No matter what’s going on, your mental health and stability is the most important thing. How do you expect to tackle and survive these stressful events if you’re feeling rundown? Recognize that you need a break and take it. 

Next week I’m taking a week-long vacation from my day job. While I enjoy my job and feel glad to go to work, I need a break before it and everything else burns me out. You can’t run on empty, but my gas tank has had it’s warning lights on for weeks. I plan on blogging and being active on social media. But I fully intend on sleeping in till noon and staying in my pajamas as long as humanly possible some days.

Keep moving forward.

Of course taking a break is important. Your mental health is important. But you must return to reality at some point. As nice as running and hiding sounds, it won’t do you any good. In fact, it will only make things worse. Tackle the tasks that you can accomplish and knock them out. Be proud of what you’re able to do. If something feels too big or stressful to handle, ask for a helping hand. Be honest about what’s going on, but don’t let it hold you back.

Trust me when I say I’ve thought about turning off my phone and fleeing the state. I have. But it won’t solve the problem. It won’t make my stress go away.

Tackle your problems one at a time.

Lastly, don’t think of all the things stressing you out as a whole. Separate them in your mind. If you can overcome one obstacle, don’t think about the twelve more over that hurdle. Make it from point A to point B. Then worry about C.

If I have a work hurdle I need to clear, I refuse to think about a personal hurdle. Especially if I won’t reach it for several months. Instead of stressing about how life is going to be in a month or this time next year, I focus on what I can accomplish today. There’s no point thinking about what might happen because let’s face it. It hasn’t happened yet. 


How do you handle stress? Do you have any tips or tricks to help me through this tough time? Let me know in the comments! I love hearing from you guys!

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Today I wanted to share how to handle stress in this crazy, stressful world we live in.

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